When you got married, you likely did not see yourself getting divorced. But divorce is a common event for many couples, and after ending your marriage, you will likely have to figure out how to jointly take care of your children with your ex.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, in 2018 in the U.S., 782,038 divorces and annulments occurred. If you are one of the many newly divorced parents trying to navigate co-parenting, these communication tips may help.
1. Set boundaries
You and your co-parent may be very familiar with each other, but do not let this familiarity impede on your parenting arrangement. Set some rules for how you will manage your relationship, especially when you are both in front of your children.
2. Schedule meetings
Figure out a regular time that works for you and your ex to discuss your children and their needs. Choose how you will communicate, whether that be through face-to-face meetings, text messages or phone calls.
3. Keep it concise
Keep your meetings with your co-parent focused on your children. If you and your ex have a hard time staying civil with one another, maintain a professional tone and avoid talking to each other when you are angry.
Communicating effectively with your former spouse after you get divorced takes commitment and practice, especially if the divorce process was lengthy or contentious. Try to leave the problems that led to the end your marriage out of conversations about your children and focus on moving forward.